3 Years Later

Things that are spoken take a life of their own.  What is presented first has the advantage regardless of its accuracy. CL

3 years later and I don’t feel that we are any closer now than we were…..

What I do know is that there is forever a hole ripped into our family’s heart.  Time does not heal anything.  Added to the fact the way this was handled from the beginning and the decisions that were made, the wound stays open.

No matter what the reopened investigation finds, if anything, the remaining items won’t be addressed.

Why will some people be held responsible when underage drinking is allowed and others not?

In the age of CSI and all the crime shows, there is a misunderstanding of how crimes/deaths are handled.  They are NOT handled like in the shows.  However, there are standards and procedures in place that establish a level that I believe is reasonable to expect.

There is no advocate for a family that disagrees with the initial findings.  There is no established procedure that can escalate.  There is no one to help you navigate.  You are totally helpless.

Limited resources is one of the excuses (reasons) that has been given.  There just isn’t enough ______  to ______.    Yeah, that doesn’t make me feel better.  Can we use that excuse (reason) for our taxes ?   Think that only works one way.

You also realize that most people will not get involved.  That is fine.  I was advised to “let it go”.   All I can say to that is what I actually did,  “would you if it were your child?”  Even if you would, doesn’t mean I can.

We all have assumptions of how something will be handled but you don’t know until you are there and it becomes real.  I truly believe that the level of attention and scrutiny is different based upon who you are and your relationship to those involved.