6 years

– allows for a lot of time to think.

The loss of someone you love leaves a hole in you and your life that only they can fill.

Alec, you are always loved, always, missed, and always remembered. Nothing will undo that night and nothing will fill that hole. With broken hearts we are left in a broken world.

I really thought that by presenting the facts of how Alec’s case was handled it would have an impact. I was so wrong.

We are told that we live by a set of laws. That these laws are adminstered equally. That those in authority operate by a set of rules that ensures equality and justice. We have another weakness, we think others “see” the same way we do..

Picture a world where noone had blind faith in our systems, elected officials, those in power then ask “Why do we buy into illusions ?”

Part of the illusion is that there are checks and balances if those in authority deviate. If you try to go this route you will find the common answer: vote them out. Really, this is the recourse available to the public? When the cycle comes back around, it requires that the majority of people will listen to the facts and come to the conclusion that them not living up their obligations requires them to be replaced. I have learned that the majority of people don’t operate on logic and facts, they operate on emotion and their reality is what they want it to be. I picture the quote from Adam on Mythbusters: “I reject your reality and substitute my own”.

People, not saints are in roles of responsibility and the service you get is only as good as that indivdual wants to give. If the individual takes these responsibility to heart, you will be treated equally and have justice. Just because they tell you they will doesn’t mean a thing, they have to say that to get elected and most people (fortunantley) will never have to put this to the test.

For those of you that have followed this blog, I will not restate all of these learnings that are documented as they have been experienced.

Facts:

• Some people will be held accountable for providing alcohol to minors and the consequences of actions that occur, and others aren’t and the decision of who is and isn’t is made by your public servants even when FOIA request reveal that there were numerous instances with alcohol and minors occurred previously.
• Laws are on the books that require that the death of a child is reported to the State Police and investigated properly. This gives the illusion of a safety net but if they fail to do it, no one cares because it is a midemenor and you will probably be told the statute of limiations for that has expired. Even some that support this vocally failed to do their mandated part and again, no one seems to care.
• All deaths are not investigated equally. We believe there exist standards, training, and supervision to ensure it is done by the book. Another part of the illusion. And if you question this be ready to be told how ignorant you are. We mere mortals cannot understand the complicated ways of the experts.
• There is required paperwork and investigative items that will be available after the fact if an issue arises. Don’t be surprised if you receive a document that was completed ( poorly) when you request it instead of when it was supposed to have been done.
• And the list goes on…..

Summary:

I am now awake and realize how fly by the seat of your pants our system real works. Do not tell me to go along to get along again. If that is your stance, we have nothing to discuss.

If you are upset because you can connect people to the statements above, every statement is documented. If you just want to substitute your own reality and not question anything, that is your perogitive and you have a lot of company in our society.

I love my son, family, friends. It is an insult to him and all that care about him if you don’t do your job to the best of your ability. You don’t have to talk to me, or be considerate, but don’t think I have to like it,be quiet or go away. You may not have a consicience, but I pray that the failures and mistakes at least make you lose sleep and you don’t put another family through what we have because of your pride and inability to try to make it right.

I just didn’t understand the rules that it isn’t about truth and facts, it is about motivating people and emotion. Motivational speaker I am not. I had faith that people would look at the facts, like I did, and I guess feel at least some of what I do.

The illusion of life is by our own making. We accept the narrative as presented and don’t question because to do so might require action.

God Bless those who loved my son.

God Bless those who have shown support.

God Bless those who have had the courage to question.

Prayers for the rest.